Tools of Forgiveness Came by Breaking Silence

by Roger Zotti

For Gregory Nicholas Malouf, writing “Silent” helped him “realize the hell I lived with.”

Gregory Nicholas Malouf, founder of Epislon Healing Academy, believes writing his book, Silent: The Power of Silence (Morgan James Publishing), “was immensely cathartic. I came to realize the hell I lived with.”
Financially successful and living lavishly, Greg wrongly believed he had everything he wanted. He explains that it wasn’t “until a crisis occurred in my life, I didn’t even know I had a problem. ‘Silent’ is [my] journey from hell to heaven documented and the lessons detailed for people to integrate and relate to.”
To paraphrase, it’s the story of a man who found it almost impossible to live within his own skin.
In his book, Greg says, “I have shared with [readers] my inner most family and personal secrets that limited my life.” It follows that he hopes “Silent” will help readers “find the courage to face the truths of their lives.” More, he hopes the courage it took him to make known what he learned from “my past, explicitly revealed in my book, gives people the courage [to do likewise].”
The big takeaway in “Silent” occurs when the author tells us that “the key to complete love, peace, and joy is found in forgiveness, and the first person we must learn to forgive is our self. One of the hardest things I have ever done is face the truth of my past.” In chapter twelve, “Forgiveness,” Greg says: “We blame ourselves for the wrong we feel we have done; this blame is quickly followed by guilt. The blame and guilt are then projected onto others, as if they were the cause of our indiscretions.” Greg goes on to provide the tools to forgive others and one’s own self.

A pivotal moment in Greg’s life is vividly recounted in chapter ten, “Relationship.” The incident, chilling and all-too-commonplace, took place when he was a youngster. He, his brother, sister, and mother are at home relaxing—but “that feeling quickly dissipated” with the arrival of his abusive father, who soon becomes “out of control.” He follows Greg’s mother into the laundry room. After a few minutes, she exits “with her head down to cover a swollen, bleeding lip.” The next victim is Greg’s brother. His father “picked him up high and shook him ferociously.”
Another key chapter is the fourteenth, “Possibilities,” where Greg discusses “the worst period” of his life. Divorced, with two children ages 4 and 5 and a teen daughter with “issues,” he’d verbally abuse his ex-wife regularly. Predictably, “there was no common ground for communication” between them. What in time Greg discovered about himself was that “the same person she was escaping from was the person trying to use blame, control, money, and guilt to win her over.”
A book that deserves attention, “Silent” succeeds for three reasons. First, Greg Malouf is an author with a genuinely intense desire to help people. Second, he doesn’t sugarcoat the problems he faced and knows other people are facing. Third, he compellingly and unequivocally shows readers how he emerged from his “distorted past,” transformed himself, and courageously “set [out] on a new path.”