Angela Olsen says, “In a pinch, you can use a lid that doesn’t fit the pot quite right, but it just makes a mess!”
by Angela Olsen
Patti Stanger recently announced via Twitter that she broke off her engagement to her love of six years, Andy Friedman. I remember gasping at the exquisite four-carat, heart-shaped, diamond, which Andy traveled all the way to Israel to purchase for her (from a conflict-free region)! Now, as the proverbial cobbler’s children have no shoes, the wedding is off, and the world’s most famous matchmaker is single!
What gives? What went wrong, and why do people break up? Patti Stanger sat in as a guest host on the Joy Behar Show on the 23rd, and dished with several relationship experts. She asked Cooper Lawrence, author of Been There Done That Kept the Jewelry “Why do people break up?” Says Cooper, “People break up because going into the relationship they didn’t know what they wanted and they get into the relationship and go, ‘wait a minute-I didn’t want this!”
I’ll drink to that! In Patti’s book Become Your Own Matchmaker, which she discussed with me at The Mohegan Sun Casino on Valentine’s Weekend, Step Four is “Qualifying the Buyer.” In this chapter, Patti discusses non-negotiables. These are “deal breakers” which for Patti and Andy, was her desire to have children. Andy changed his mind, and now doesn’t want children.
As a woman, I know that this chapter can be a challenge; you’re attracted to someone, feeling the sparks, butterflies in the tummy. Nothing will scare a man off faster than nailing him with fifty-questions about his financial goals, and how many children he wants, etc.. However, if you don’t coyly figure these details out, you can waste months or years of your time with Mr. Wrong. I’ve been there, done that, kept the jewelry!
As a new season approaches, change is in the air. Fall fashion, as my Resident on the Street Lindsey Castelberry says, is reason for great excitement! As I say goodbye to Summer, and one Mr. Wrong, who was courting me, I’m looking forward to what’s next. The Universe is abundant, and Every Pot Has a Lid!
What are your five non-negotiables? Here are Patti’s categories: Spiritual, Physical, Emotional, Intellectual and Financial.
Posted on September 1st, 2010 | category: Millionaire Matchmaker - Patti Stanger
