by Bryan Golden
Everyone asks for something. Some things you intentionally request. Other things you seem to get without asking. For example, I’m sure you’ve heard the expression that someone is asking for trouble. Since no one really wants adversity, this request is invariably made subconsciously. Another common expression is to be careful about what you ask for, because you may get it. It’s helpful to understand the power of asking. Many people don’t fully recognize or appreciate this force. They are far too complacent regarding the impact of their thoughts and actions. Surprisingly, there may be little or no awareness of what they are asking for.
Your requests are extremely potent. They are mental seeds attempting to grow to reality. Your mind is impartial; it doesn’t care whether you ask for good or bad things. Therefore, you have to be cognizant of what you want, as well as what you ask for.
Only ask for that which you want. If you don’t know what you want, how can you decide what to ask for? Even if you haven’t identified what you want, your thoughts are not idle. Your mind will be asking for things, but without any direction.
Just as important as understanding what you want, is understanding what you don’t want. Avoid asking for failure and problems. Asking can be in the form of thoughts or actions. You ask for problems by engaging in behavior destined to produce undesirable results.
A person who habitually overeats is asking to be heavy. Someone who turns to alcohol, when faced with adversity, is asking to compound their problems. An employee who is consistently late for work is asking to be fired. A dishonest individual is asking for a life of deceit. The person who mistreats others is asking for few, if any, friends.
If you are not asking for anything specific, you are taking a passive role in your future. You don’t want to go through life as a spectator, content with whatever the wind blows your way. Only by being proactive, will you be able to influence the direction of your life. If you are receiving things you don’t want, you have to ask for something else. Where you are now, and what you have, is a consequence of previous requests. Consciously ask for what you do want. Adjust your thoughts and behavior to attract the desired results.
It is never too late to ask for something different. You have freedom of choice. When you ask for something, it should be with conviction. Ask for things you really desire. Don’t ask for things that cause misfortune to others.
Ironically, it’s easier to ask for and get what you don’t want. It’s easier to get fired than to get hired. It’s easier to destroy a relationship than to keep it going. It’s easier to let yourself go to pot than to stay healthy. That’s one of the reasons you have to be selective in what you ask for.
Do you know what you are asking for? If not, take a good look at what you are thinking and doing. Ask only for what you want. Avoid requesting anything undesirable.
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